Who do you sit down next to at a dinner party? This says a lot about you. 

If you attend a wedding, a dinner party, a social gathering, do you stick with your partner, lover, spouse? Do you talk to his or her friends? Or do you talk with someone you’ve never met before? 

This says a lot about who you are, and if you notice, most people lean on their partner. Yes, you came with them. But is important to put yourself out there, because you never know who will change your life, or whose life you can change. 

My personal favourite people I like to sit adjacent to at a dinner, are the older people. Or if there are none, the people who I would most look up to that have accomplished what I want to do.

If there is a woman who is 80 years old – I love sitting next to octogenarians – they have all the stories. They have seen it all. They are also the funniest people I’ve noticed, full of jokes and lightheartedness. 

They have had real problems without the hindrance of social media to dictate what goes on in their lives. They are most likely the generation to prioritize all the important people and things in life, because they have little time left. They make sure to spend their lives with their loved ones and only saying the important things. 

If you can get an older person interested in talking with you, you probably have something valuable to say. Next time you attend a family get together, a social gathering, or professional event, find the people you look up to the most and make it a point to share an interaction with them. Be fearless when it comes to breaking the ice. You could come out a changed person from this one act. 

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