We could all use a little bit more kindness in our lives. So much so that when someone is kind after a hard day, we are surprised to encounter it! This is really unfortunate, but I want to stay on the bright side and say it’s absolutely doable.
Here is a simple guide of voice tricks to implement to sound more pleasant and immediately make others feel at ease:
Get enough sleep.
You go crazier faster without sleep than you do without food. Nourishing our energy by recharging properly will get you very far in life. It benefits your hormones, your diet, your mental clarity and all around bodily function. You look healthy and attractive when you sleep restfully, and not to mention, are more attractive because of your good mood. You are always ready to take on the world with the good night’s rest.
Drink something warm.
You are literally warming up your voice when you do this, therefore sound more pleasant. This is also something best done by taking a moment to sit down and start your day in peace. Whatever the warm elixir is — whether it’s coffee, tea, adaptogenic, or a simple lemon and water — it will soothe you and those around you when it comes to your dulcet tones beautifully re-energized behaviour.
Play a song you love that boosts your mood.
For me, it’s Bruno Mars. Specifically when I’m driving, I drive calmly when in a better mood here in Los Angeles where traffic is the wild wild west. Also, nobody wants to punch someone who is dancing in their car or when they hear Bruno Mars. He’s also my go-to for karaoke nights.
When you enter a room high energy, say at a social gathering or giving a work presentation, it rubs off on others instantly. You make others want to get up and hug you or you have their full attention when public speaking. The dynamic of the room promptly shifts.
Breathe when you speak.
This is what I call The Marilyn Monroe. If you’ve ever watched a Marilyn Monroe film, or even a scene, you will be blown away at how she embodies the ultimate feminine flowing femme. She takes it a step further by creating a childish charm and wonderment in the way she speaks, but to add that? Totally up to you.
I know someone who personally isn’t attracted to her, but made the point that she “embodies femininity”. His exact words. What makes women more attractive is all the things that make her more feminine and healthy if you take a step back to look at innate biology.
Slow wave vocal dispersion is the specific phrase for it. There have been studies on this topic that people generally find it attractive when you speak softly with a breathy voice. It ignites calm in others and people want to lean in and listen to what you have to say. It creates extra value for the words you have to express yourself with.
Avoid vocal fry.
What is vocal fry? It is when you put zero effort into speaking and let the back of your throat sound like a dirtbike. Here is a prime example:
It makes you sound really vulnerable and especially careless. I like to call it the audible eye roll haha. Speak clearly and enunciate what you mean softly, but not to the level that you are avoiding any effort. I hear a lot of people say it sounds uneducated, but you could have all the education in the world and still create vocal fry haha. For example, Barack Obama does this in every single speech.
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