How to have resting smiling face

Fresh cut grass is now one of my favourite smells in the world. It used to not be when I was in the city. When living in Hollywood Hills, California, I found landscapers annoying, because I thought they were loud and getting in my way when I needed to concentrate on work. When the truth was, they were making things beautiful, and I was feeling jealous.

Why am I mentioning this? 

I was working from home and stood outside for a fresh air break while the landscapers were working, and suddenly realised why they are so happy. They are out in the sun, getting fresh air, and smelling fresh cut grass. 

Now, living in the middle of nowhere in Kentucky, I see landscapers have huge smiles on their face. Living in the middle of nature is not everyone’s cup of tea, but your mental health calms down along with your bills and stress.

A lot of people glamourise and make jokes about being isolated indoors when it is the last thing human beings need. A few months ago, someone released an article that the physicians who forced us to stay indoors during the panini also found out that a rise in depression and anxiety from being separated has spiked. Surprise surprise. 

We all have problems. Deal with them face forward, and fix yourself actively versus voicing constantly what you are going through. Stop using your friends, acquaintances, and social media as free therapy. Channel that into remembering small beautiful details of life. The things you are grateful for. All the things you do have. 

Forget fear of missing out. Everything you need is right here. Forget you relying on your happiness coming from external sources. You decide. Nobody has you in a chokehold saying you have to live this way. 

If you are not feeling your best, when you get home after a long day, feel awful when you get home. Put that energy into working out, make yourself feel better with a shower, dressing up, cooking something delicious, read out loud to yourself, clean your home. Whatever fulfills you and puts you into a positive state. 

Avoid spreading your despair onto other people. We all live with it from time to time. You never know if someone is going through something worse. It makes things worse for everyone including yourself, because misery loves company. 

There was also a conjecture released a few months ago from lifetimes of study of people who are stressed shorten the lives of others around them, because they raise the cortisol levels of others also.

You are better off going for a walk. Staying hydrated. Naturally making your hormones feel rejuvenated. Creating positive memories with everyone you encounter. Be the encouragement you need. You never know who needs it. 

I am not saying to smile all the time on the outside with a really wide and bright expression. I am saying focus on what you have no matter how small. Do not take it for granted, because it is so easy to spiral. Simple things will win you over, and it is true when they say the best things in life are free.

That is one of the many reasons why I moved to the middle of nowhere where nobody can bother me, and I make a truly great effort to contribute to work, clubs I am involved in, and meaningfully spend quality time with others. Everything is an hour away from me, so I have to make everything worth it. 

It is one thing to hang around spending time with friends, but it is another thing to intentionally make someone’s day and be cheerful. Generally speaking, you never regret being kind. Sure, every now and again, there will be an exceptional story where a person did you wrong and took advantage of you. See that person less. 

For the general population, we would all be a bit happier if we were all kinder. I have to remind people of this, because I remember how cynical I was living in the city. When I found this mindset, I had to remove myself from the city, because the population was the main part of the issue. 

You do not need alcohol, expensive clothes, or partying to make you happy. Sometimes it is looking up at the trees and taking a deep breath of fresh air, getting vitamin D. Live in the moment. You are where you need to be. Remind yourself of your dreams and goals, how you will get there, and things will feel sunnier again. Thank you for listening to my TED Talk. I will see you later.

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