If you have ever been in an argument that goes on for too long or turns into a giant argument built up from a lot of little ones, here’s how to stop that from happening. Subscribe for The Glow Up weekly newsletter and never miss a single post!
Jordan B. Peterson says to keep an argument as specific as possible so it does not venture off into a bigger, overwrought dialogue. Ask what is the problem, and then find ways to solve it. If the person you are having an argument with keeps bringing other issues up, or old arguments, ask them sincerely what they want to be solved at this time. Then, say you can only solve things one problem at a time.
Walk them through everything simply as clearly as possible. Ask if they have questions. This takes the emotion out of everything so it doesn’t turn into a fight. A fight – my definition – is when emotions become uncontrollable, you raise your voice, and it’s hard to come down that. An argument is simply a fact or opinion – a statement – and then reasoning to back it up.
If you want a fight to be over, genuinely give your time to help the person out with what you can do to mitigate the situation or give them your limitations and boundaries of only what you can offer. Don’t overpromise. Understate and overdeliver by following through by doing what you say.
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